If you ask many women to select their dream diamond ring , more often than not they will select the LARGEST & FLASHIEST stone in the case. Carat weight, the last of the 4 C’s refers to the size of a diamond in a piece of jewelry. During my days as a salesperson, I was often asked by women to see the “largest” stone or ring in the bridal case. Many times these were women who had chosen the “perfect” ring… yet they weren’t even dating, let alone engaged. “What?” Above the relationship with a partner, beyond the scope of a deep love and respect, the “SIZE” & “BLING” mattered the MOST.
It seems that in our society BIGGER and BRIGHTER is better. This idea of competition at all cost is not reserved for the jewelry world but permeates the fabric of popular culture everywhere. Upon visiting your local grocery store or pharmacy, one can’t help but be overwhelmed by the magazines plastered with images of lavish clothes, accessories, cars etc. A constant reminder that size and quantity are essential to a happy life.
DIAMONDS……. This is a problem.
I’ve written this post to refute the idea that more or bigger is better. In fact a large, cloudy and fractured diamond pales in comparison to a small, beautiful and flawless diamond. At a glance the larger diamond has more value but upon closer inspection it lacks the quality to make it a lifelong treasure. In contrast, a small flawless diamond is coveted, expensive and in many cases out lives the owner of the diamond. In other words, the QUALITY will always mean more than the QUANTITY.
As women we have become very competitive in a number of ways, often reducing our worth to mere amounts. The SIZE of our behinds & chests, the NUMBER of degrees we have, the AMOUNT of makeup we wear, the COST of our shoes and handbags, all but determine our value in society. When did our values become so warped? Character traits like kindness, integrity, wisdom, forgiveness, intelligence, patience and a loving heart are just a few of the things that make us valuable as diamonds.
I have been to a few funerals in my life and I have NEVER heard a eulogy that included the deceased person’s account balance or shoe collection. When we leave this earth, it will be OUR QUALITIES that remain. So in this last installment of the 4 C’s, I ask that you take inventory of who you are inside DIAMONDS. Allow the most valuable parts of you to shine from the inside out.